I Asked 5 Of My Favorite Stores To Dress Me Up For A First Date

I’m a serial dater. It’s not a label I’m particularly proud of, but after several weeks of back-to-back dinners I’ve begun to accept the fact that I maybe do this more than the average person.

Last week, I was invited to a date that I was dare I say excited about. I had butterflies in my stomach,jittering handsand no idea what to wear.

My go-to date outfit consists of a low-cut tee, skinny jeans and my favorite booties. However, this particular Friday was supposed to bescalding, and I also wanted to try a look that wasa little different than normal. Clearly, my date uniform wasn’t working the magic I’d hoped it would.

So, butterflies in tow, I made my way to five of my favorite stores. I toldsales associates my man was surprising meat 8 pm and it was a first date. I also told them I had no idea what to wear or what looked good on me.

Things got weird pretty quickly.

Madewell put me in distinctly unsexy culottes.

I love my body most days, anyway but the recurring theme was that I should either hide it under frumpy layers or put it on full display. There was no in-between.

Madewell’s outfitfeltthe most me. After ducking the store associate’s questions about the location of my date andmy personal style (I trust you!), she picked out a pair of comfy culottes and a patterned top.

I was pretty into it, except and this is a big except it’s just not a date outfit. I didn’t feel sexy in it, but I did feel professional. I’d wearthis outfit to a meeting or event, but certainly not to meet a guy I potentially want to get me nakedlater that night.

I was this close to walking away with the culottes, but didn’t want to splurge. Plus, I had four more stores to go.

Anthropologie dressed me as beachy bridesmaid.

Anthro is thereal-life version of Pinterest. It always smells like a mixture of Grandma’s house and sex cabin in the woods, both of which are vibesI want to embody on a date (I think).

The in-house stylist had her mind made up about the importance ofwearing a dress on my surprise date. She picked out a billowy gold numberwith feather tassels at the collar, pairing it with a pair of kitten heels. She also hummed what sounded like A Whole New World from Aladdin when she walked away, further convincing meAnthropologie is secretly run by fairy princesses.

Don’t get me wrong: Thedress was pretty. I would totally wear it to a summer wedding, but it did nothing for my body. It felt more like a very luxe blanket than something even remotely sexy.

I don’t think it was the sales assistant’sintention to make me look and feel like afancy circus tent, but that’s what happened. I felt pretty, but not like I’d want my date’s first impression to be this dress.

American Eagle went for sorority girl chic.

In college, I worked at American Eagle and loved when shoppersasked me for styling help.

The sales associatewhohelped me pick out an outfit was puzzled by my request. I couldn’t tell her where we were going,so she had a hard time picking out something for me to wear. A dress? Sure. A tank? OK. It was all a little bizarre to her.

Eventually, she settled on a loose-fitting white tank, a pair of low-rise shorts and chunky sandals. I was actually really into it, save for the fact I don’t normally wear low-rise anything. These particular shortscut into my hips at a weird place. However, the top would’ve looked stylish with jeans, and the sandals were so comfortable I had to put them on hold.

Would I actually wear this on a first date? Yeah, maybe. Just change the shorts.

Brandy Melville was my own personal nightmare.

There’s a memorableInside Amy Schumer sketch poking fun athow impossible it is for women of acertain size to buyclothes. After receiving nothing but scathing remarks from the associate, Schumerends up being relegated to a pasture with Lena Dunham and a real-life cow.

Basically, the exact same thing happened to me in one-size-fits-all store Brandy Melville — minus the farm animals, thankfully.The associate suggested I pair a loose-fitting white top with a pair of denim shorts. She picked up a pair of jorts in a size too tiny to fitmyleft buttcheek, let alone both.

These are a small, the associate told me aslooked back at her like she’d grown a damn horn in the middle of her forehead.

I don’t think these will fit, I said, trying to keep my cool. Do you have a larger size?”

She began thumbing through the stack of teeny-tiny shorts, trying to find a pair that wouldfit my apparently Godzilla-sized bum. After clarifying that I was probably the store’s largest size, she managed to pull out a Barbie-sized medium.

As I had predicted, the shorts made it up to my knees and stayed there. As a last resort, Iasked my co-worker to grab a bottom any bottom that had the potential to fit. She picked out a pair of cotton shorts, which were surprisingly comfortable. She also admitted they were the only item in the store that looked like they might fit me.

Here’s the thing: I’m a size 6 or8, andusually feel good about my body. My experience at Brandy Melville totally destroyed any self-confidence I might’ve had that day. I don’t blame the associate I’m sure she had no experience with women above size 2 but it was still jarring.

Urban Outfitters went cute and simple, just not my size.

I was actually really into this outfit. The top wasa bodysuit, which is like wearing an ultra-chic chastity belt –because it’s impossible to remove in a remotely sexy way.

The skirt was great, too, but it was also a size too small, which made me sad. They didn’t have a larger size, but I was into the outfit anyway. Plus, those mules were everything.

If there’s one thing I learnedabout first date outfits, it’s that the ideal first date outfit should be whatever youfeel best in. Be that a bridesmaid dress, a tank top and shorts or a muumuu, wear whatever the hell makes you feel like Khaleesi. And we all know that a real Khaleesi doesn’t need a Khal.

As for the guy? He turned out to be a f*ckboy. Surprise, surprise.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/women/asked-stores-first-date-outfit/1510232/

How and Where to Apply Perfume

Woman applying perfume or body mist on her wrist

 

Oh sure, everyone knows that you douse your wrists with perfume and rub them together, right? Or maybe you spray a cloud and walk through it for just the right perfume distribution? WRONG!

Never rub your wrists together. This fragrance expert strongly cautions against this habit. “You ‘break up’ the top notes, which are the lightest,” she says. – From You’re Applying Your Perfume Wrong. We’re Here To Help.

As far as applying perfume to hair, applying your fragrance to a hair brush is better for your hair:

For a lasting impression that won’t stink, try the hairbrush trick. Simply spray your perfume or cologne onto a brush before stroking it through your strands. “Fragrance sprayed directly onto your hair may cause [your hair] to dry out,” says Kapla. – From You’re Applying Your Perfume Wrong. We’re Here To Help.

You hair is actually one of the best places to spritz perfume because the strands hold fragrance well and leave a trail of scent as you move from place to place. “Fragrances latch onto hair fibers, therefore hair will carry the scent of the fragrance for a long period of time,” says Caisse. But will the alcohol in perfume dry out your hair? “The alcohol in fragrance is similar to that in certain hair sprays which do tend to dry out the hair,” explains Caisse. “To avoid any drying of the hair, the best way to apply fragrance to hair is to mist on a brush.” There are also scents made specifically for hair… – From 9 Places You Never Thought To Apply Perfume

9 Places also has some interesting suggestions for places to apply fragrance including:

In Your Belly Button
Your navel is useful for more than just belly piercings. Dab a few drops of perfume on the spot if you’re wearing a midriff-baring crop top or bikini. “Any area on your body that radiates heat will enhance a scent, and your belly button does just that,” says Caisse.

Behind Your Knees
The soft area behind your knees is another one of those pulse points perfect for perfume. Throughout the day the scent will kick up as you cross your legs and move around, especially if you’re wearing a dress. “Knees are great for summer since they’re exposed,” says Caisse. “The back of knees are warmer and softer and therefore capture a strong scent.”

Down Your Calves
If you’re wearing shorts or a leg-revealing dress, spritz fragrance along the inside of your thighs and calves. The friction between your legs as you walk will create warmth and reinvigorate the scent throughout the day.

On Your Ankles
Before you slip on your favorite pair of stiletto heels, give your feet a blast of perfume. “Your ankles are always in motion, so it helps project the fragrance wherever you go,” says Caisse. “It continues the scent from head to toe.”

 

Scents can conjure positive memories in a primal way other senses can’t. Use them to your advantage.